Serious loss is something which we will all face at some time in our lives. This may be because of the death of someone close to us or it may be because of other circumstances such as the loss of our health or our home. Many of us will not experience bereavement or loss until later in life and may have little opportunity to learn about death and about how people are affected by grief. It can be difficult to know what is “normal” and to understand how we or our families respond when we face a loss. You may think you are the only person who has felt the way you do. Whilst everyone’s response to a loss is a very individual experience, there are some common experiences that many people will share.
Coming to terms with a death is a very gradual process which can take a considerable time. People usually find that gradually they are able to get on with their lives and think a little less about the person they have lost. Most people begin to feel like this within one or two years of the death of someone close to them. It may be difficult to accept the death of a loved one but still be possible to move on with life in spite of this. It is important not to feel guilty if you are beginning to build a life for yourself following a death. It is quite normal to begin to recover and start to rebuild your life, and is not in any way disloyal to the memory of the person who has died. Bereavement is always a difficult time, but there are things you can do to help yourself through it.
How we can help with Bereavement:
The NHS have produced a range of self-help guides that can be viewed as a PDF or an audio version. To view the guides please visit the self-help guides bookshelf (opens in new window).
Exploring relaxation can help you look after yourself when you're feeling stressed or worried. Why not try these relaxation routines and see how relaxation can fit into your daily life? Listen to the audio guides here.
SilverCloud online therapy
SilverCloud courses are designed to help you improve and maintain your wellbeing by changing the way you think and feel about things.
There are several free courses to pick from including positive body image, panic, covid-19, depression, anxiety, stress and many more.
All you need is access to the internet and sound on a computer, tablet or mobile. The programme is flexible so you can use it anytime, anyplace, and anywhere. They feature videos, activities, quizzes, audio guides and your own online journal. Find out more on the SilverCloud website page.
Every Mind Matters
Expert advice and practical tips to help you look after your mental health and wellbeing. Visit the Every Mind Matters website.
Here2Help (if you live in Worcestershire)
Here2Help is a service that offers support for people of all ages. It includes information, advice, tools, guidance and local support available in the local community.
Talk Community (if you live in Herefordshire)
Talk Community is helping residents, businesses, community leaders and our council to make Herefordshire a better place to live and work.
Podcasts can be a really good way of relaxing the mind, listen to features, interviews and a number of people involved in mental health, including people have experience mental health difficulties, campaigners and mental health experts. To find out more visit the podcast resources page.
Self-refer to healthy minds
Our Healthy Minds team are trained and experienced in supporting a wide range of more common mental health issues. Mostly this involves ‘talking therapy’ approaches. Talking therapy could involve group discussion, or more traditional 1:1 sessions. We also provide online courses which the team can guide you through. To find out more about the service and self-refer visit the service webpage.
Free mental wellbeing support including online chat and forums. www.qwell.io
Visit your GP practice team to discuss the best options for you, including access to specialist services.
Herefordshire and Worcestershire Wellbeing and Recovery College
Courses and workshops to give people the tools, skills and understanding that they need for their own wellbeing and recovery. Visit the Recovery College website here.
Employment support (part of the Healthy Minds service)
Mental Health Matters are working in partnership with Herefordshire and Worcestershire Health and Care NHS Trust to provide employment related support to individuals who are accessing Healthy Minds.
Urgent NHS mental health helpline
Call the free local NHS urgent mental health helpline 0808 196 9127 if you need advice and support quickly. (24 hours a day 365 days a year).
For free, if you are seriously injured, have taken an overdose or if there is an immediate risk to life.
Samaritans freephone: 116-123
Shout: Text “SHOUT” to 85258
The little book of mental health
The little book of mental health is a practical guide for everyday emotional wellbeing produced by Worcestershire County Council.
We are Herefordshire’s local mental health charity. Our aim is that no one in Herefordshire should have to face a mental health problem alone. Please feel free to get in touch with us anytime. https://herefordshire-mind.org.uk/
Springfield Mind is the leading mental health charity for South Warwickshire and Worcestershire. https://springfieldmind.org.uk/
The CLD Trust (if you live in Herefordshire)
Our counselling staff are all professionally trained and qualified and have significant experience and specialisms. We are able to offer a variety of counselling therapy including brief sessional therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), solution focused therapy, specialist substance misuse and systemic family practice. Find out more on their charity website: https://www.thecldtrust.org/the-cld-trust/
The Cart Shed (if you live in Herefordshire)
Providing activities such as woodwork, coppicing, gardening and cooking can all have an emotionally healing effect. A non-clinical setting helping individuals address and overcome issues they may be finding difficult to self-manage. To find out more visit the Cart Shed website: https://www.thecartshed.co.uk/about
Simply Limitless (if you live in Worcestershire)
The charity provides support to people of all ages in the community with their mental, social and physical health. https://www.simply-limitless.org/
Onside provide a range of support and services to ensure fairness and equality for adults who may be vulnerable, disadvantaged or discriminated against. This includes mental and physical ill health, sensory impairment, learning disability, drug and alcohol misuse, older people, and carers. https://www.onside-advocacy.org.uk/
Community First is at the forefront of sustainable, robust community development in Herefordshire and Worcestershire. We specialise in providing high quality advice and support to community groups and organisations, to help them grow and meet the needs of the communities they serve. https://www.comfirst.org.uk/home
We are a vibrant, independent organisation committed to improving the lives of people in Herefordshire & Worcestershire through the power of physical activity and sport. https://www.activehw.co.uk/
West Mercia Women’s aid
WMWA works for a world that is free from domestic abuse and violence against women and girls, where everyone can live without the fear and reality of all forms of violence, abuse and discrimination. https://www.westmerciawomensaid.org/
Relationship Counselling and Sex Therapy in Worcestershire and Herefordshire. https://www.relate.org.uk/hereford-worcester
Worcestershire Association of carers
The home of support for all unpaid carers in and around Worcestershire. https://www.carersworcs.org.uk/
Drug and Alcohol Support
The Silver Line is the only free confidential helpline providing information, friendship and support to older people, open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. https://www.thesilverline.org.uk/
The hub of hope
The Hub of Hope is the UK’s leading mental health support database. It is provided by national mental health charity, Chasing the Stigma, and brings local, national, peer, community, charity, private and NHS mental health support and services together in one place for the first time. https://hubofhope.co.uk/
As a new dad you will feel excited, but you may also feel left out, unsure or overwhelmed. The DadPad can help by giving you the knowledge and practical skills that you need. The resource will support you and your partner to give your baby the best possible start in life. https://thedadpad.co.uk/
Reading Well is a national scheme supporting people to understand and manage their health and wellbeing using helpful reading. The books on our reading lists can be recommended by a health professional and taken free of charge from a local library, or users can self-refer and borrow the titles as they would any other library book.